I hate it the most when I see or hear a man say, “Girls, you don’t have to put on a lot of makeup and spend so much time finding the perfect dress because men like it best when you’re in your simplest form.” and bla bla bla bla blahhhhh.
I am not, in any way, saying that all men think like this. But I guess I can pretty much say that most of them do and to those who do, this is for you.
Do you guys really think that girls spend so much money on a foundation and an eyeshadow palette to impress the fuck out of you when you probably don’t even know the difference between a matte, sheer and a dewy foundation? Do you really think that we spend a lot of time thinking about what to wear because we are thinking what you’re gonna like and what you won’t like at the same time? Do you honestly think that we sleep late at night to watch youtube tutorials on how to do our hair just to get your attention? Fucking no.
I know a lot of girls have said this, probably even better than I will but girls do it for themselves. Get over yourselves. We do it because we wanna look good and feel good. Again, for ourselves. This is our body. This is our mind. We have every single right to do whatever the fuck we want.
Guys, not everything is about you. Just because you see a lot of women desperately looking for a lifetime partner, does not mean that 100% of the women population desperately want you and would do anything for you to marry us. No, some of us can actually live without you. Women don’t exist to impress and meet the fuck out of your unreasonable and unrealistic expectations of us. I am just so sick of people telling me what and what not to do. I am sick of seeing posts where guys are constantly criticizing every little thing that women do or decide to do for themselves.
I know that life is not equally fair with men and I know that men have issues about things like this too where women tell them what and what not to do especially in relationships but I am not here to speak about that. I speak about what I have personally experienced and still experiencing as a woman.
First off, I am extremely saddened by this news. How fucked up is the society for a 13-year old to have the courage of taking his own life?
Bullying is a serious matter that we should focus on. And by we, I meant as a government, as parents, as friends, as workmates, as a nation. It happens everywhere. It happens in school, in our community, at work, and sometimes, even at home. People don’t realize how serious others could be taking their words. A single statement can trigger anxiety and it could lead to depression which is another major problem that people often brush off. It is something to be taken seriously and I just can’t stress that enough. I battled with depression when I was in College. No one knew about it except the people who were following my blog(tumblr was my platform back then). No one noticed. My family thought I was just having an “attitude” because I was always in a bad mood. It was a huge help to know that I wasn’t the only one dealing with it. I got a lof of help and surprisingly, most of them came from people I met online. I was just lucky I was surrounded by good people who constantly gave me encouraging words.
Bullying can also be a form of a joke from a friend or anyone you’re close with. If there’s anything that your friend tells you that bothers you a lot, tell them straight up. Tell them you don’t like it when they do this and that. And if they tell you you’re a butthurt or you’re sensitive, I don’t think you should consider them as your friend in the first place. I say, stand up for yourself. No one’s gonna do that for you. Speak up. Ask for help. Don’t let the bullies tear you down.
This kid is just another revelation of how fucked up the society is. It’s just too unfortunate that it took one life for everybody else to realize how serious bullying can get. How many more lives will be put to waste for us to do something about this? For people to realize how their words and actions affect other people’s lives?
The only regret I have right now is watching “Facing The Giants” just today. I’m still thankful though because I needed it so badly. My faith has been put to test recently. This movie opened my eyes and made me realize how far and disconnected I am from God. I go to church and I talk about Him to people(sometimes) but something was always missing. I remember the times that my life was just about Him and never about me.
It has been almost a decade ago when I used to be a devoted little girl and I just want to be that little girl again. The little girl who was always proud of sharing the gospel, inviting people to church and doesn’t care if others will judge her, say things about her or laugh at her because they don’t believe to the God that she believes in. The little girl who was always ready to defend Him. The little girl whose actions speak volumes about her faith and love to God and not just her words. The little girl who doesn’t avoid people from the Church. The little girl who was always excited to meet and mingle with people with the same belief as her. The little girl who doesn’t succumed to the countless temptations that surround her.
I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life and I could say that the worst of them all was when I decided to distant myself from God only because I didn’t understand what He was doing with my life.